This writing was top notch Sean. Made me think too.
Askers still drive me nuts, in fact, upon reflection it might be because I was raised to think they are obnoxious, always asking for things and favors (borrowing cars, picking your brain, etc) is self centered when we should be more outward facing instead.
But in business, especially yours (and mine if I'm honest), its absolutely necessary.
Good lesson to reflect on for me personally, and as I think about the lessons I want to impart to my kids as they become young adults going into the professional world.
I too am a guesser at heart but learning the asker skillset. The game changer for me is audiobooks from Benjamin Hardy and Dan Sullivan. Dan Sullivan is an advocate for "I want what I want" energy. Don't justify. Thank you for the epic read.
Was brought up as an Asker. Had a short stint working for someone instead of doing our own thing about a decade ago. Leadership wasn’t conducive to being an Asker and it altered me mentally for a little bit. Had to dig out of it after branching back out 7-8yrs ago.
If you’re offering an authentic take and are generous with offering value to others, then being an Asker is more well received than most perceive.
Key point here, offering value to others. Not appearing to be a shallow fool asking naive questions. I paid a contractor recently mightily for a fence repair, he wanted an extra $250 because it rained on his stain so he had to come back to touch it up.
His margin was huge and there were low quality issues I had to tell him to correct.
The tenacity here, or lack of fear in his "asking", was not appreciated or productive. :)
This writing was top notch Sean. Made me think too.
Askers still drive me nuts, in fact, upon reflection it might be because I was raised to think they are obnoxious, always asking for things and favors (borrowing cars, picking your brain, etc) is self centered when we should be more outward facing instead.
But in business, especially yours (and mine if I'm honest), its absolutely necessary.
Good lesson to reflect on for me personally, and as I think about the lessons I want to impart to my kids as they become young adults going into the professional world.
I too am a guesser at heart but learning the asker skillset. The game changer for me is audiobooks from Benjamin Hardy and Dan Sullivan. Dan Sullivan is an advocate for "I want what I want" energy. Don't justify. Thank you for the epic read.
Was brought up as an Asker. Had a short stint working for someone instead of doing our own thing about a decade ago. Leadership wasn’t conducive to being an Asker and it altered me mentally for a little bit. Had to dig out of it after branching back out 7-8yrs ago.
If you’re offering an authentic take and are generous with offering value to others, then being an Asker is more well received than most perceive.
Agreed!
Key point here, offering value to others. Not appearing to be a shallow fool asking naive questions. I paid a contractor recently mightily for a fence repair, he wanted an extra $250 because it rained on his stain so he had to come back to touch it up.
His margin was huge and there were low quality issues I had to tell him to correct.
The tenacity here, or lack of fear in his "asking", was not appreciated or productive. :)
Great comment Tom!
One of the things I tell my kids everyday is “How do you get what you want? You ask for it…nicely!”